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DISCIPLESHIP: MISSION TOWARDS TRANSFORMING HUMANITY

What is LOVE?

Wherever there is love, there is a trinity: a love, a beloved, and a fountain of love. - St.. Augustine (354-430)

Love is the free self-giving of the heart. To have a heart full of love means to be so pleased with something that one emerges from oneself and devotes oneself to it. A musician can devote himself to a masterpiece. A kindergarten teacher can be there wholeheartedly for her charges. In every friendship there is love. The most beautiful form of love on earth, however, is the love between man and woman, in which two people give themselves to each other forever. All human love is an image of divine love, in which all love is at home. Love is the inmost being of the Triune God. In God there is continual exchange and perpetual self-giving. Through the overflowing of divine love, we participate in the eternal love of God. The more a person loves, the more he resembles God. Love should influence the whole life of a person, but it is realized with particular depth and symbolism when man and woman love one another in marriage and become "one flesh" (Gen 2:24).

In this context then, sexuality must not be separated from love; they must go together. The sexual encounter requires the framework of a true, dependable love. When sexuality is separated from love and is sought only for the sake of satisfaction, one destroys the meaning of the sexual union of man and woman. People who look for sex without love are lying, because the closeness of their bodies does not correspond to the closeness of their hearts. Only committed, enduring love in marriage creates a space for sexuality that is experienced in a human way and brings lasting happiness.

What does it mean to say Man is a Sexual Being?

So-called "safe sex", which is touted by the "civilisation of technology," is actually, in the view of the overall requirements of the person, radically not safe, indeed it is extremely dangerous. It endangers both the person and the family... Pope St. John Paul II (Letter to Families, 1994)

God created man as a male and female. He created them with erotic desires and the ability to experience physical pleasure. He created them to transmit life. Being a man or being a woman is very deeply imprinted on the individual human person; it is a different way of feeling, a different way of loving, a different calling with respect to children, another way of believing. Because he intended that they should be there for each other and complement one another in love, God made man and woman different. That is why man and woman attract each other sexually and intellectually. When a husband and wife express their love for each other in bodily union, their love finds its deepest sensual expression. Just as God is creative in his love, so too man can be creative in love and give life to children.

God endowed men and women with identical dignity as persons. Both men and women are human beings created in God's image and children of God redeemed by Jesus Christ. It is just as unchristian as it is inhumane to discriminate unjustly against someone because he is male or female. Equal dignity and equal rights, nevertheless, do not mean uniformity. The sort of egalitarianism that ignores the specific character of a man or a woman contradicts God's plan of creation.

Everyone, man and woman, should acknowledge and accept one's sexual identity. Physical, moral, and spiritual difference and complementarity are oriented toward the goods of marriage and the flourishing of family life. Each of the two sexes is an image of the power and tenderness of God, with equal dignity though in a different way.

Why should a Christian Live a Chaste Life?

Authentic married love is caught up into divine love - Catechism of the Catholic church, 1639

A chaste love is a love that defends itself against  a[[ the internal and external forces that might destroy it. That person is chaste who has consciously accepted his sexuality and integrated it well into his personality. Chastity and continence are not the same thing. Someone who has an active sex life in marriage must be chaste, too. A person acts chastely when his bodily activity is the expression of dependable, faithful love.

Chastity must not be confused with prudishness. A person who lives chastely is not the plaything of his lusts but rather, lives his sexuality deliberately, motivated by love, and as an expression of that love. Unchaste behaviour weakens love and obscures its meaning. The Catholic Church advocates a holistic - ecological approach to sexuality. This includes sexual pleasure, which is something good and beautiful; personal love; and fruitfulness, which means openness to having children. It is the understanding of the Catholic Church that these three aspects of sexuality belong together. Now if a man has one woman for sexual pleasures, a second to whom he writes love poetry and a third with whom to have children, then he is exploiting all three and realty loves none of them.

Someone lives chastely when he is free to be loving and is not the slave of his drives and emotions. Anything, therefore, that helps one to become a more mature, freer, and more loving person and to form better relationships helps that person to love chastely, also.

One becomes free to be loving through self-discipline, which one must acquire, practice, and maintain at every stage of life. Being able to live out a pure and undivided love is ultimately a grace and a wonderful gift of God.

Does Everybody Have To Be Loving & Chaste?

More souls go to hell because of sins of the flesh than for any other reason... The Message of Our Lady of Fatima.

Every Christian should be loving and chaste, whether he is young or old, lives alone or is married. Not everyone is called to marriage, but everyone is called to love. We are destined to give our lives away; many do so in the form of marriage, others in the form of voluntary celibacy for the sake of the kingdom of heaven, others by living alone and yet being there for others. All human life finds its meaning in love. To be chaste means to love with an undivided heart. The unchaste person is torn and not free. Someone who loves authentically is free, strong, and good; he can devote himself in love. Thus Christ, who gave himself up completely for us and at the same time devoted himself completely for us and at the same time devoted himself completely to his Father in heaven, is a model of chastity, because he is the original model of strong love.

The reason why the Church is against pre-marital sexual relations is because she would like to protect love. A person can give someone else no greater gift than himself. "l love you" means for both: "l want only you, I want all that you are, and I want to give myself to you forever!" Because that is so, we cannot, even with our bodies, really say "l love you" temporarily or on a trial basis.

Many people take their premarital relationships seriously. And yet there are two reservations involved that are incompatible with love: the "exit option" and the fear of a child. Because love is so great, so sacred, and so unique, the Church teaches young people the obligation to wait until they are married before they start to have sexual
relations.

 

 

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